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Each cancer experience is personal. Life does not stop while you are going through treatment. Other sickness or sudden events can take place and add extra demands on you and the people you love during and after treatment. How do survivors cope? Where do they get their strength from? Read more to find out how and where some cancer survivors have found strength during hard times.

What is Strength?

Finding strength is moving forward even when you feel afraid, sad and unsure. Strength can come and go; it is not constant. Finding strength is being able to live with feeling scared or uncertain about what will happen next. Finding strength is not forcing an upbeat viewpoint. It is accepting that the cancer experience is hard and that it can feel like too much to deal with at times.

Finding strength can also mean letting go of control and being open. For friends and family members, finding strength may be coping with the health care of a loved one while sometimes feeling sad and helpless.

The Hardships of Facing Cancer

Cancer can affect all parts of your life. You may go through difficulties that are emotional, mental, physical and practical.

Emotional and mental hardships may include:

  • Feeling helpless because you can’t control parts of your life.
  • Waiting for results, appointments and treatment.
  • Not knowing if the cancer treatment is working.
  • Not feeling normal or like you used to.
  • Feeling alone.
  • Having faith and trust in a medical system that you may feel has failed you in the past.
  • Having friends and family who may not know what to say, what to do or how to relate to what you are going through.

Physical hardships may include:

  • Dealing with the physical effects of the cancer and treatment, like pain or fatigue.
  • Feeling different in your body.
  • Looking different (hair loss, weight loss or gain, scars, etc.).
  • Being patient with changes in your body or facing what has been called a “new normal” (changes that don't go away and become part of your life going forward).

Practical hardships may include:

  • Losing your routine at home or work.
  • Being in a new world that is medical and not what you are used to.
  • Being away from work.
  • Having money problems because you are not working and/or because of treatment related costs.
  • Losing your sense of freedom by not having energy to run errands, clean the house or visit friends.

Ways to Find Strength

People find the strength to face cancer in diverse ways. You can find strength in yourself, in others, or in things you can do. Some ways to find strength are:

Be aware of your feelings and needs.

  • Get to know yourself and share your feelings with others.
  • Work through your feelings of frustration or fear.
  • Believe in and be honest with yourself.
  • Set limits for yourself and others.
  • Tell others what you are thinking and feeling.
  • Use humour.
  • Find a new meaning to life based on what you have been through.
  • Know that cancer is not a failure. You did not cause your disease.

Reach out to people around you.

  • Ask for help and support when you need it.
  • Build a support circle of family, friends, work colleagues, fellow survivors or health care providers.
  • Attend support groups to meet people going through cancer.
  • Make a bond with other survivors so you feel less alone and can learn from each other.

Do things you enjoy or that make you feel good.

  • Read, paint, watch TV, play a game. Do something you enjoy that helps you feel normal or distracts you from cancer.
  • Learn to relax during times of stress by trying meditation, exercise, yoga, breathing techniques, or massage.

Benefits of Finding Strength

Finding strength can help protect you from everyday stress, anxiety and depression. Caring, positive relationships and sharing with others can be helpful during a time of stress and can relieve some of the pressure on you. Simple acts, such as making meals, being social and being active can be healing and help you feel more like yourself.

Many people who find strength after a cancer diagnosis feel a sense of growth and new meaning in life after they have gone through the hardest of times.​​

 

Disclaimer: The content of this toolkit is for informational purposes only. The content reflects the views and opinions of people touched by cancer who shared their experience to help other patients and families cope. The views in the toolkit do not necessarily state or reflect those of the University Health Network (UHN). UHN urges you to consult with a qualified health care professional for consultation, diagnosis and/or treatment plans with respect to your medical condition(s). It is not the intention of this toolkit provide specific medical advice.

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Last reviewed: 6/17/2025
Last modified: 6/18/2025 11:47 AM
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